Let me take you with me for a minute into a Relief Society meeting recently held in a BYU singles ward. My husband Scot and I were teaching and we asked a question that everybody wanted to answer. The young women were clamoring to https://kissbridesdate.com/sv/blogg/hur-att-hitta-en-fru/ be called on and the answers spilled out quickly.
We asked them what is most stressful to you in your current life-and almost to a person, they said dating and boys. Then we went on. They exploded with answers.
Being in a singles ward sometimes feels like a meat competing with everyone for the boy’s attention. I am always wondering if I look good enough or am what boys would want. It makes me feel like I’m always on the line and I have to second guess myself to fit into what the boys would find attractive.
This idea puts so much weight on dating, that people avoid it all together, until they find a person that they think might fill that bill
I feel like I have to look and say and do everything just right to get a date, and if I do, I am self-conscious that I won’t get asked out again unless I live up to his idea of what a girl should be like. It makes it hard to be natural.
It is difficult to get to know boys. If I talk to a boy as a friend, he thinks I am flirting with him hoping he will ask me out.
I know how important it is to choose the right person to marry, and that weighs heavily upon me. How can I know that someone is right? It also means dating is a very weighty thing for me, because I know so much of my happiness depends upon it-and it doesn’t seem to be happening.
I feel like I can’t plan my life because if I move for school or a job to someplace where there aren’t a lot of Latter-day Saint guys, will I ever meet anyone? Should I stay in Provo to be where there are many guys?
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